He's Just Not That Into Me

Sorry for the lack of updates recently. I was off in la-la land.

La-la land is described as the place where the Single Girl goes when she thinks she's found a keeper. I admit it, I'm a sucker for that happy little rush of endorphins that comes when a guy I like contacts me. If I don't like a guy, a simple "How ya doing" text will annoy the crap out of me. But, if I actually like him, it'll make my heart skip a beat and a big broad smile to come to my face.

Anyway, for about two weeks I was virtually overdosing on those happy little endorphins. The texts and emails came every couple of hours, and I liked it. I started telling people I had finally found "a communicator."

Last week, my Communicator was out of town and the communication slowed. This week, it's come to a virtual stop. Nothing since early yesterday morning. Yeah, I know, for a normal guy, that would be nothing. But, for the guy who had once sent me a text message letting me know that I might not hear from him for 2 hours it was because he was going into a very important business meeting, it was quite clear that something had changed.

As we've pretty clearly established, I've made a lot of mistakes in the dating world. In the past, one of the recurring themes was a stubborn insistence that if a guy wanted to break up with me, he needed to "man up" and do it. I wasn't giving anyone any easy outs.

But, then, I discovered this:


I apologize to the friends who had to listen to me read entire chapters of this book out-loud on what would have been an otherwise relaxed beach day last summer. Most of time I think self-help or relationship books are utter crap. But, the simple question of this book (born out of a Sex and the City episode and used to inspire a really cheesy Hollywood movie) is why, oh-why would any of us ever settle for someone who's settling for us?

Never fear, friends. This is not a sad tale. Yes, things did not work out with my Communicator. I just sent him an email acknowledging that our little thing had "run its course." I'm simply no longer interested in dating a guy who's just not that "into" me. And, frankly, I was no longer all that "into" him either.

So, I'm moving on from my Communicator (a.k.a. #24.) Anyone got any suggestions for #25? ;-)