The day I got desperate enough to email cancer guy.

So, this morning I woke up to this fabulous email in my box from K, who's taken to sending me her match.com matches (now that she's all happily coupled up thanks to eHarmony!)

RE: your soul mate awaits
Okay, so this guy screams you. bos___
No joke. I read his profile and even his writing screams you. What do you think?

So, I check out Mr. bos___. Tall. Kinda cute. Smiling. (I like smilers.) Outdoorsy. And, best of all, under his "For Fun" question he writes:

I can be very long winded. Very.

Dude. I get you. We are one.

So, I read further. He's funny. Optimistic. Open Minded. An NPR listener. (This is a big plus in my book.) Respectful of religion but not actually religious. Tall. Under 40. And he wants kids. Basically, he's my perfect man.

Then, squished in between all his fabulous qualities, is the following qualifier:

I was diagnosed with a rare type of bone cancer. I am currently treating a relapse of this cancer and am unfortunately currently going through chemotherapy. While I am VERY hopeful that I will be well in the relatively near future, I realize that no matter what I have to offer as a person that my situation is more than most people would be willing to deal with.

I am not daunted. Cancer guy is perfect. I will not be deterred. Sure, he hasn't logged on in more than three weeks. He could be too sick to log in. He could have found the love of his life. Or he could have just gotten tired of the match.com game.

None of these possibilities deter me. Match requires me to send 5 emails to "new" people every month if I want to cash in on my six month guarantee, and cancer guy is looking like the perfect email recipient.

So, I send the following. I figure it's best to tell the truth...

Let me tell you a little story...

So, my friend K sent me an email this morning with the subject line, "your soul mate awaits." This is K. She likes to pick out guys for me. Usually she's way off base, but I always check out the guys she sends anyway. So, I see your profile and I see that, for once, K's actually chosen someone I find interesting. A few minutes later I send an email to K saying, "Girl...but what about the cancer?"

Yeah, you were so verbose, that K didn't get to that part!

I see you haven't been on here in a few weeks, so I hope that's happy news (like you found your soul mate without my friend K's help) and not bad news health-wise. Even though it increases the likelihood that you're happily partnered up, I hope you're well and should you log on again someday, feel free to say hello!

I have a little dream that this email will make cancer guy smile someday when he's in need of a little pick-me-up, but...who knows?